I heard a wise man describe the strongly-willed as follows:
There is a saying, "Tough times build character."
I disagree.
"Tough times don't build character, they reveal it."
The truth is you either have character or you don't,
regardless of the tough times.
The key to rising to the challenge of the tough times is to decide now, before the storm is upon you, what you stand for.
This way when you are confronted with difficult circumstances your decisions will be easy.
Just apply the values you've selected for yourself to the circumstances you are presented with at the end of the day.
That is all decision-making is, values application.
Although much of this is TRUE,
However,
I wish life was that easy!!
Even for the strongly-willed individuals we fail, at times, to face the challenges of life with our pre-set values which sound ideal.
And sometimes the strongly-willed are particularily faced with the worst challenges!!!
Ethical, dogmatic, emotional, heart-breaking and abrupt challenges
which really puts your whole life in complete chaos.
I will leave the endless examples to your imagination.
Which is why, I believe that:
Life is what happens to us while we're having other plans.
Therefore, in many parts of our lives we don't really apply our values when making a decision. Instead, we decide to forgo either our feelings or our principles.
And neither of the two would make us happy!
So what do we do?
7 comments:
an interesting point of view can you explain the graph please
each one of us have a potential or potential , the difference is that some of us make us of them and modify and build their characters others do not or some remain in between
what matters is not to loose the lesson if you lose!
غير معرف..
This diagram consists of the interaction between the five values:
TRUTH: Integrity; Wisdom; Common sense; Creativity; Discrimination.
RIGHT CONDUCT: Respect for parents; Respect for teachers; Honesty; Good manners; Regard for duty.
PEACE: Humility; Simplicity; Equanimity; Tolerance; Patience; Satisfaction, Discipline.
LOVE: Gentleness; Compassion; Forgiveness; Gratitude; Kindness; Caring for others; Friendliness.
NON-VIOLENCE: Concern for environment; Unity; Harmony; Social awareness; Respect for all religions.
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The conceptual framework of the SSEHV originated from the universal approach to human values expounded by Sathya Sai. It is essentially a multi-faith approach for students in some countries like India. It is interesting to know how important it is to teach our children certain values to help them build better characters which would help them in facing the challenges of life.
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thank you for the information
nice new picture, Free to fly!
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غير معرف..
If you're referring to my profile pic. yes some of us wish they had real wings, others, on the other hand, settle for imaginary ones
very well done
but i kind of disagree with you...or want to put a question forward
according to what I UNDERSTOOD you are saying that we dont change our personality...we are built with it..ya3ni if a bad or evil person cant change who they are...no hope for them?!?!
ow ba3deen wallah 7walat 3youni min al arabic blogger...kel shay bel magloob loool
:)
dont = cant
sorry 3al typo
some of my points dont make sense..the bad person..if ther is such a person who is born bad...then why do we resent them and cast them out...according to the info here..its not their fault?
wallah madri if am making sense...allah y3enaich 3ala ma tosal my point loool
Ghasheema, welcome to my modest blog :) first of all thanks for the comment and I think I sort of UNDERSTOOD what you mean. Firstly, I am not implying that people don't change. Ofcourse people change IF they want to. It's just that tough times don't really build our characters because it depends on our reactions whether we decide to stand up and take action or close our eyes and hope it would go away on its own. I'll give you an example, during the invasion some of us really portrayed their solid characters through various good deeds whereas some others were naiive and helpless. These are the times that really show what type of a person you REALLY are.I hope I answered you
Now, this is not the heart of my questions (although it is part of it) my question is on decision making. What do we do when we are faced with a dilemma? We know one way is theoretically the right way but it doesn't make us happy. Whereas the other way, which is theoretically the wrong way makes us happy. In these situations no matter which way you take it WONT MAKE YOU HAPPY!! So, what do we choose? To be frank with you I'm not sure if there's an answer. I just want to hear different opinions on this matter
Thank you :)
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